TomTom units do indeed incorporate a birds-eye view. The "better" models (IMO) also offer that view in both north-up and direction-of-travel-up views ... something for you to consider given your particular use model.
I rather suspect you will also want a model that avoids "auto zoom" in favor of one which you can control.
As for maps - I can assure you that my TomTom has placed me on many a gravel and dirt road here in Colorado. In fact, one of the options on (again, IMO) the better units is a selection for whether you wish to travel such roads to begin with. I always opt to do so rather than have it ask me or avoid them.
Whether or not the map is of sufficient detail is something you will have to decide for yourself. As I say, I've covered some real goat tracks with mine, but not everything shows up, and some old roads that have been gated off by municipalities and counties still may show as accessible when they are not (without bolt cutters, that is). I would recommend you take a look "at the source" by viewing sections of the map at
Digital Mapping & Navigation Solutions- Tele Atlas, TomTom's source for maps (much like Garmin uses Navteq). The way to do this is to pretend to provide a correction to Teleatlas and have a full view of the map while you are there. This is accomplished at the following link:
Map Insight
My TomTom has had some dust abuse to be sure. Providing you don't let too much guck build up in the area between the bezel and the glass (you can clean it out after the fact) that causes it to see phantom key presses, it doesn't much seem to mind.
Current models that provide the full benefit of the brand, including things mentioned above and more, are available as the GO740 and XL340 models.
In your shoes, you might also opt for a larger 5" screen model to improve visibility as much as possible. To that end, have a look at the XXL530 or 540 and XL550 models (NOT the
XXL550!)
Last, but certainly not least, is the question of whether in your special (and potentially very noisy) situation, you will need to have the audio from the unit available to send to an amplifier or in-vehicle audio system (like the aux input on a car stereo). If so, the choices are limited to ONE unit ... the older GO630 and GO730 series, still available new in a very few places, but more widely available as a reconditioned unit from TomTom. At present in the U.S., that is the ONLY model that retained the 1/8" audio out connection. The GO630, GO730 and GO740 also include room for an SD or uSD card. While not an immediate problem, it allows for the increasing size in U.S. maps down the road, and simplifies updating them now.
Have I confused you enough?